Posts in Coaching
5 practical things I learned on a hike help me connect people better at church

Recently, my daughter Carly and I climbed Castle Rock above Big Bear Lake California. As we hiked, bouldered and climbed, 5 discoveries came to me for those who connect people in local churches. Click here to look at our photo journal to see what I learned.

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How a Type 9 on the Enneagram experiences your church and how to connect them

If you have three children like I do, you have had the concern for the emotional landscape of your child in the middle. My so-called “middle child” is Kendra. She is now 24 and she has taught me all about connecting Nines at your church.

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How a Type 8 on the Enneagram experiences your church and how to connect them

Charles likes to challenge us. Questions like “Why are we…”, “Why did we…”, and “How will we…” are often asked by him in a polite but direct and courageous way. Why does Charles relentlessly ask the hard questions and make the tough statements? Because Charles is an Eight and you have to know how to connect Eights well to your church.

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How a Type 7 on the Enneagram experiences your church and how to connect them

When she was done, she was surrounded by a group of guests connecting with her and our compassion opportunities in animated conversation. That’s because Ariel is a Seven. Discover a Seven’s superpower and how to connect them to your church.

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How a Type 4 on the Enneagram experiences your church and how to connect them

Did you know that Van Gogh was…

  • A pastor’s son

  • He went to Bible College to become a pastor

  • He served as a missionary

    He was also a Four and Fours are visiting your church right now. Here’s how to reach and connect them.

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How a Type 3 on the Enneagram experiences your church and how to connect them

Several business owners were coming into my church and connecting at a descent level with me personally but not relationally with others in the church. I began asking myself why and came up with these 2 observations…

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How a Type 1 on the Enneagram experiences your church and how to connect them

Want to know how to connect people like Matt (a Type One at my church)? Let’s look at what it takes, how he experiences church, the dos and don’ts for reaching someone like Matt, and of course, his Superpower as a volunteer.

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How the Enneagram can help you reach a bigger variety of guests at your church

The guests that God will lead to your church and mine this weekend are not all the same and one style of connecting does not fit all of them. Understanding people’s Enneagram number will make you more effective at helping people find their small group of friends at your church and their unique role in serving others on a ministry team.

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Discerning where you're really at in your spiritual journey and helping others do the same.

Have you ever wondered where you are in your spiritual journey, or why you went through a difficult time and wondered when it would end? I think that guests who have found their way to our churches are wrestling with those same questions as well. In this conversation with Sharon Hughes, I share an answer to these questions that has served me and the guests we connect with well.

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Need to get someone's attention in leadership about what needs to change at your church?

Do you ever feel that you are not being heard by your senior leadership as you shout from the trenches? Here are 4 ways to lead up and get the ear of senior leaders, followed by 3 free resources that you may find valuable for such a time as this.

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5 lessons for connectors from the movie Free Solo

What Alex Honnold did on El Capitan is too astounding to take in. Alex climbed El Capitan in less than 4 hours….without a rope or any other safety equipment. His documentary Free Solo is up for an Oscar this year and is in IMAX theaters right now. As I watched the movie, the lessons for those of us leading people on the climb to connect with God and our churches became obvious to me.

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Where should you spend most of your time during your Christmas services this weekend?

Where will you be and what will you be doing before, during and after your Christmas services? I want to share with you the most important place for you and I to invest our time this coming Christmas weekend. Believe me if you plant yourself there, it will pay off big time as well as focus you mentally and spiritually.

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1 day left till Video Course Launch/New Instagram and Andy Stanley Book

Once you go through this course, there is no reason you cannot have all four components of a successful assimilation strategy in place and working for you during 2019. On the eve of the release, I want to share 2 more resources with you: one social media, the other a book recommendation that may serve as a way of appreciating your volunteers.

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Leveraging the Affinity Factor

One of the reasons that guests make a decision to return to your church within the first 7 minutes of their first visit is because they are unconsciously asking the same question all of us instinctively ask ourselves when we find ourselves in a  new environment: "Is there anybody here who's like me?" As Rick Warren says, "You don't attract who you want, you attract who you are".

Learning to leverage "The Affinity Factor" can unlock whole new opportunities to connect guests to your church.

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